Friends and fear

One of the biggest joys of learning to love yourself and embrace all parts of you is letting go of what other people think about you and knowing that their opinions of you is a reflection of who they are not who you are.

But in revealing our true identity to the world, living in our truth and our light, we make ourselves vulnerable. It takes courage and love to be vulnerable, and not matter how much we love ourselves, there is always a fear lurking ready to surface that those close to us will judge us.

When we published this page a few days ago, I went to invite my friends on Facebook to like the page, but found I couldn’t bring myself to Invite All, just select ones who I knew would love and support our new adventure.

The truth is I was afraid to be seen as I really am, here and now, by many of my so called “friends” on Facebook. I was afraid of being judged by people I work with, family members, and other people who don’t know that spiritual side of me and haven’t seen my blog and videos. So many people to whom I haven’t truly revealed that part of me and who only know my work persona or who I was a few years ago.

Whilst I am happy to post videos and content to my tribe on Debbie Reeves - Perfectly Imperfect page, I realized there was still a part of me afraid to be seen by the people who knew me in a different part of my life.

It made me ask myself why am I even friends with them if I am afraid to be seen for who I am?

So, after some reflection, sitting with my feeling of fear and allowing them, I pushed Invite All. Some of them will like/love our work, some of them will hate it, some will ignore it. But it’s a huge step forward to being seen by everyone in my life and letting them know, this is me, this is who I am, love me or hate me.

I’m going to let my light shine on everyone and stop hiding it from those I think won’t accept me.

And yes, I have culled my friends list on Facebook, the time had come to let some people go.

Debbie Reeves